Research on Love and Health
Research on love and relationships show that engaging in deep and calming love in marriage helps us to:
The key aspects of health benefits occur when we are:
Thus, platonic and altruistic love might also help benefit health just as romantic love does.
Yet, how many times have you found yourself hesitant to invest fully in expressing or receiving love? Often times we hold back because of:
It is the act of openness and thoughtfulness that nourishes the heart in a selfless way, for when we take ego and fear out of the mix and express love from a space without agendas, our hearts and spirits stretch and grow in new ways.
People who perform qi gong and meditation tend to nourish their ability to open their hearts mindfully by increasing the energy to invest in the process of giving and receiving love.
While some researchers find a correlation between calm, loving marital relationships and higher levels of health, other researchers are considering the health benefits gained by individuals, such as the Dalai Lama, who are engaging in deep altruistic love and connecting profoundly by giving selflessly to people.
Certainly, this kind of selfless love is also valuable in benefitting health–the act of creating spiritual communities and connecting intimately with others through altruistic acts creates significant physical and mental benefits.
Ester M. Sternberg, a researcher a research professor who authored The Balance Within: The Science Connecting Health and Emotions (Freeman, 2001), concluded that altruistic expressions of love may:
The effects of altruism on a happy mood are well documented medically. Dr. Kathleen Hall, a world renowned expert in stress and founder of The Stress Institute, says that “Altruism creates a physiological responses or “helpers high” that makes people feel stronger and more energetic and counters harmful effects of stress.
Thus, expressing love altruistically may have as much of a health benefit as experiencing love in the context of longer term, married, romantic relationships.
How can we expand our heart energies and capacities to share love in ways that increase our health benefits?
(1) Engage in qi gong that is focused on energetically and spritually opening the heart
The “”Opening Heart” movement from the Five Treasures has the wonderful effect of cleansing the heart energies so that one can expand social energies and love to others. You can review this movement by visiting the 12 steps free stress relief with qi gong workshop by clicking on step 9.
(2) Practice expanding the heart energy behaviorally by going out of your way to engage kind or loving behaviors. To help activate a more expansive use of your heart energies, perform a simple qi gong self massage by gentling rubbing the heart center slowly as you breathe deeply.
As you do so, reflect on the following questions.
Often times we are willing to do what is convenient and comfortable for us to express love, but the deeper benefits of stretching the heart come from those moments that are willing to go that extra mile to extend ourselves.
(3) Actively surround yourself with other loving people who are natural givers, and who enjoy investing love into other people.
One of the comments students in my qi gong class often share is how wonderful it feels to be among a group of people committed to breathing, moving and sharing positive energy.
When we surround ourselves with such people, there is a synergy that occurs from the dynamic of love going back and forth–it is this synergy that researchers are studying in married couples and concluding that such interactions are beneficial to health–but remember, that synergy can also occur among people who are single and expressing love.
Some of the quiescent forms of qi gong mediation specifically empower us to feel more connected to others in spirit and through your hearts to magnify the sensation of love, and reap all of its benefits through receiving and sharing it with others.